Don't You Fall
Don't you fall in love with me
Don't show me your affection
I can't give you what you want from me
I don't want the attention
I gave away my heart before
And it only caused me sorrow
How could I think of loving someone
Today or tomorrow
(Chorus)
I've been so long confused
Was I loved or was I used?
Now the sun goes up and down
And the weather rains and shines
I lost my heart somewhere
Oh I need to take more time
Don't you fall in love with me
Don't show me your affection
I can't give you what you want from me
I don't want the attention
No I can't give you what you want from me,
I don't want the attention
"Don't You Fall"
The Be Good Tanyas
Perhaps I should have taken this as a theme song months ago...
So much can change in three months.
The semester is half over; there are times I feel as though I've been here as long as some of the tutors think I have been.
The tips of my fingers are finally starting to show the effects of my guitar playing.
And now for homework... it almost feels like old times.
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6 comments:
OK, now this is more like it.
Personally, I don't think ANYONE at TAC is sufficiently qualified to be in love. (some of the older students excepted) I have been convinced of this since the beginning of sophomore year. YES, there ARE character qualifications necessary for that condition. Anyone who thinks otherwise is deceiving themselves.
We're far too young and stupid to be qualified.
Don't let it get you down, though. There's other equally important beautiful things out there that need attention. A guitar is a beautiful thing...the season of fall is a beautiful thing, there are thousands of beautiful things to see....
I confess that I am ashamed to be posting on this blog. It makes me think of Austin and his very amusing little spiel about "all to the morose musings of another peice of spent used up jet trash wishing upon a star sizzling like a candle wick between wet fingers and all that bullshit." However, some things can´t be left unanswered.
Anyway, as an old friend (I mean the fat English one with sword-stick, revolver and homburg) once said, "What is worth doing is worth doing badly." It´s absolutely true that most TAC students, for all their intelligence (and they´re not all that intelligent), know next to nothing about love. This is partly due to the way most Catholic homeschoolers in America think, but I digress. All of the most important things in life are necessarily ameteurish. Hardly anyone is or ever will be ready for them--whether for love, citizenship, or the intellectual life.
I don´t know what you mean by "qualified." It sounds like you need a license or somesuch nonsense. In any case, falling in love is one of the surest ways of building character. A man (or woman) who at college age depreciates love is either lying to himself or ought to see a shrink.
By qualified I mean sufficiently acquainted with the realities of life.
Such as, being able to exist independently / i.e. support oneself - life skills. Being able to find AND hold a job and take care of all the baggage involved in everyday life.
Such as, experience in non-romantic relationships. Experience with the give and take (well, actually, there isn't any "take" , really, let's say the "give") of maintaining a friendship and a partnership with respect to common interests. Although emotions are certainly involved in such a relationship, it doesn't quite open the emotional pandoras box that seems to exist with romantic relationships. I could be wrong about this, but it seems like a romantic relationship has a whole different emotional setup.
Furthermore....
What do you mean by "love" when you say "falling in love is one of the surest ways of building character"??? I know plenty of people who have fallen in love innumerable times and sure as hell don't have great characters. Anybody can fall in love, and it doesn't follow that that will help their characters any.
Insofar as "love" is NOT answering a selfish desire, love can motivate one to form the habits of self-giving, of sacrifice, for the sake of the beloved. How often does this happen in the majority of college romantic relationships? Be honest with yourself.
Also, how are the most important things in life necessarily amateurish? I don't get that. I can see how the acquisition of the ability to love, or be a citizen, or be an intellectual, could be stumbling. But, there are safe environments in which to acquire those abilities, "schools" if you will. To love, one has the school of friendship. To be a citizen, one has the school of peer cooperation and hopefully some instruction on justice. To be an intellectual, one has the school of learning to think (or TAC). One is not constrained to learn by throwing oneself into the ocean.
No one will learn to love without trying. Relationships in college are very important. You are right to say that most TAC students are not ready for a relationship, but they won't be until they try anyway. In my own case the two relationships at TAC taught me almost all I know about love, especially the second one, and not just about love for a woman.
Relationships can do the opposite of course. And some people can be so immature that they are not even mature enough to grow more mature in a relationship. Things have to be considered on a case to case basis. As a loose rule, I would suggest that TAC'ers not date freshman year, and to hesitate sophomore year, but for some people it is good even then.
To step back from TAC, and speaking as a man, falling in love with a woman is the natural school the Lord provided to teach us how to love Him and our neighbour, and also to teach us how to be grown men. Women inspire us to seek the Good. I suspect something similar is true for women when they fall in love with men.
That makes some sense.... I exaggerated my opinions somewhat; I don't want to entirely deny that a lot about human relationships can be learned by cut-and-try, but I am annoyed at the opinion that that's the best way to learn...perhaps I hold overly strongly the maxim "do not cast pearls before swine"
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